I was unhappy just recently. A friend of mine shared the same unhappiness. My unhappiness was mostly caused by the blunder at work, and it dragged me to the point where other things in my life seemed as helpless and pointless. I felt like a failure. And of course the fact that I am still single in an environment where my friends are getting married or having the time of their life with their significant others adds another element of despair.
Thus, we, the unhappy people, decided to work on our happiness project. Basically, the idea is to open up more and to be grateful of little things in life, such as trying new things. In tonight's post, I would like to share how our happiness project going.
1) A jar of yearly happiness.
This project has actually been going on since last year, when I was working on my bachelor thesis. I was happy then, but I saw this brilliant idea on Instagram/Tumblr, and I was inspired to work on my own yearly happiness. So what you have to do is to write on a piece of small paper the things or moments that make you happy, or at least smile. The importance of this project is to appreciate the small happiness in your everyday life. It will go into effect when you look at your jar and see it filled with small rolls of paper, and when you open them all on the last day of the year. You will realize then how you are blessed with many happiness throughout the year. It reminds you to be thankful over and over again.
2) Quora
Quora is a website for open discussions about many things. My friend recommended it to me. We are both often take life too seriously and, man, are we thinkers. We contemplate about a lot of things: about finding love, about being judged by appearance, about not being beauty enough according to society's standards, about happiness, about religion and faith, about money, about the philosophy of life. In Quora, you meet many over-contemplating people alike, and you encounter many interesting questions and answers that just help channeling your inner thirst for discussion. Believe me, engaging yourself in Quora helps you (especially if you are as curious about the society with whom we live today as my friend and I).
So far, the two things help me finding happiness. They free a little part of me who wants to fly away from the maze called reality. And they help me see that reality's not all bad.
3) Being a 'Yes' Man/Woman
Opening up and seeing life with new (better) perspective, more positive outlook, are easier said than done. However, being a 'Yes' woman can be one of the ways to start. My friend starts to use online community app to connect with new people, therefore creating new bonds and bringing fresh experience to her life. She also starts to accept blind dates arranged by her friends, therefore, again, creating new bonds and bringing fresh experience. Although it doesn't necessarily mean a lover is guaranteed for her, getting to know new people and expanding her world help her to see how small her problems are compared to the wide, wide universe surrounding her. As for me, I am not so lucky to have blind dates arranged for me (yet), but I try my best to believe my new connections are just around the corner.
3) Being a 'Yes' Man/Woman
Opening up and seeing life with new (better) perspective, more positive outlook, are easier said than done. However, being a 'Yes' woman can be one of the ways to start. My friend starts to use online community app to connect with new people, therefore creating new bonds and bringing fresh experience to her life. She also starts to accept blind dates arranged by her friends, therefore, again, creating new bonds and bringing fresh experience. Although it doesn't necessarily mean a lover is guaranteed for her, getting to know new people and expanding her world help her to see how small her problems are compared to the wide, wide universe surrounding her. As for me, I am not so lucky to have blind dates arranged for me (yet), but I try my best to believe my new connections are just around the corner.
For those of you who happen to encounter similar problems and need to find happiness, I recommend the three for you. x
