My Keepers

I was just diagnosed of having one of those scary-named illnesses yesterday. It is not something that can be cured with just a full day of sleeping in and it kinda freaked me out the first time I heard the diagnosis. But it is also not something that I am condemned to have for a lifetime or that threatened my life. I won't go into further detail about it. Besides, it turns out many people have had it before me and they are perfectly cured by now, so I won't worry too much. It's just a hormonal problem.

However, scary names are meant to be scary and when I told one of my friends about it, she overreacted a bit and told other friends in our circle. It had pissed me off a little because I don't like too many people knowing about it because if they freak out, they freak me out, too. And I hate freaking out because that makes me feel incapable and weak. I like to think of myself as the protective one; the capable one in charge of worrying - not someone to be worried about!

My mother told me people worry because they love me. It is an opinion I have a hard time accepting. Not that I don't understand... in fact, I worry about people around me because I do care. It's just that I am not used to being the one about whom people need to worry. I hate it so much that I came down to reflecting: am I shutting people out? Am I putting distance to our friendship?

Anyhow, some of my friends paid a visit earlier today.

It was not so much of a hyper-entertaining meeting we usually have, probably because my focus wasn't exactly in place, but we had a quite nice time. I remember laughing a lot to the old sarcastic and cynical jokes, to the goofy way of speaking, and even to the most boring jokes. By the time they all went home I found myself singing out loud, and generally my spirit was lifted. 

Only then that I realized I might have not really seen what this friendship is about: that it is still so warm and so tight, that it is losing if I keep not seeing it, and that it means so much to me.

I still hate too many people knowing about my sickness, mostly because I hate feeling weak and I hate the uninvited attention, but there's a part of me that now thinks I have to open up and accept the way they love me. They went so far to my house for just a visit to someone who barely has to lie still under the blanket - surely no matter how much I hate it, I would be sorry to have them ignore me! What else could someone ask for but a friend - more, friends! - who is willing to go miles just to see you? 

They are precious friends. They're keepers.